How important social connection and interdependence are to our lives?

We are wired in such a way that our well-being depends on our connections with others and we are profoundly shaped by our social environment so we suffer greatly when our social bonds are threatened or severed.

Mammals are born immature incapable of taking care of themselves, we mammals only survived infancy because someone had such an urge to connect with us that everytime they were separated from us or heard us crying it caused them a pain that motivated them to come and find us and help us over and over again.

You can have the greatest idea in the world, but if you can't connect with other people nothing will come out of it so our capacity for social pain is one of our greatest super powers.

Matthew Lieberman

Social Cognitive Neuroscience Lab Director at UCLA Department of Psychology, Psychiatry and Biobehavioral Sciences

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